"let your religion be less of a theory and more of a love affair" - G.K .Chesterton

In the same way, let your "marriage", "acts of service", "prayer life", "relationship", "obedience", "politics", "Mass participation", "Catholicism", "tithing", "growing in virtue", "study of the Summa", "Salvation", etc., be less of a theory and more of a love affair. 
Love affairs do not disqualify the roles, rules, responsibilities, visible structure, public and corporate nature of a love affair - it internalizes them, it makes one free from the "law" by writing them on the heart. A man in love fulfills the laws of love not because he simply "has" to, but because he wants to. Commandments become opportunities. Real Christianity is not "either / or" but "both / and". Loving Jesus means fulfilling roles, following rules, accepting responsibilities not out of fear, but out of sheer joy from beginning to end.